Monday, December 31, 2012

Reflecting on The Year 2012

The year 2012 was good to me. I fell in love with myself again. I embraced my naturalness and my womanhood. I learned a lot about myself and strived harder for improvement. I retained the few friends I have and I love and appreciate them dearly. I honestly believe I am a better person than I was in 2011. 

This year I fell in love with someone who is the most supportive, motivating and loving person I could have. Having this great support system have made my improvements much greater. In Sept 2012, I created the Glam Natural Life blog where I have the platform to share my experiences as it relates to natural hair care, skin care and natural living. I am grateful for all those who have visited and read my blog. It has grown faster than I expected and while I am proud of myself, I can't take all the credit. You the readers have helped it to grow by reading and commenting and inspiring me to more effort into it. For that, I thank you. 

It has been a good year and 2013 will be better. I will it to be. I am not big on New Years resolutions but I am going to try and make a few realistic enough to keep. Will tell you my list  later. Lol! One for  sure is to improve the site and provide my readers with info that is of interest to them. I hope I can help more people and be inspired more. 

Want to thank you all and wish you and your family a Happy and Prosperous New Year. May it bring more love and opportunity and wisdom into your life. 

Shelly (Glam Natural Life)

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

DIY Homemade Natural Hair Deep Conditioner

So I decided to give my hair some needed loving. I wanted to deep condition my hair but did not want to go out and buy a deep conditioner. So what do you do? You MAKE your own. Lol!

I haven't washed my hair in 2 weeks and have been using Gels and products with mineral oil so I needed a good hair and scalp cleaning. I shampooed with Shea Moisture Smooth and Repair shampoo and got my scalp clean and ready for conditioning.

I poured a generous amount of Tresseme Naturals Conditioner in a bowl. Then I added a generous amount of honey, about 2 tablespoon of Jamaican Black Castor oil and 2 drops of Tea Tree oil. I mixed it all up and applied it to my hair in sections and made sure the entire shaft was coated.

Massaging the mixture into my scalp felt so good. The tingling sensation from the Tea Tree Oil left my scalp feeling heavenly. I put a cap on and took a nap for an hour. When I rinsed my hair, it felt so soft. The honey gave the conditioner a moisturizing boost. It was so soft to the touch and my curls were springy and it was shiny.

I love the results so much it reminded me how important a deep conditioning session is. I saw more hair coming out than I wanted to see but that's my punishment for slacking on deep conditioning my hair. All shed hair and single strand knots were gone. This will definitely be a weekly ritual.

Do you create your own homemade hair mixtures? Please share!

~Glam Natural Life

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Rest in Peace Sandy Hook Elementary victims!

It's been a sad couple of days since the senseless killing of those kids and teachers in Newtown Connecticut. Just want to remind you to have them and their families in your prayers - whatever your religion might be. 

Those children could have been doctors, lawyers and even president of the United States and great husbands, wives and parents. They will not be seeing those days. We try to make sense of what happened but impossible to think why someone would do such a thing to innocent children.

Can you imagine sending your kids to school only to never to see them again? I know that nobody want to think about that. Go home and hug your babies.

This world is crazy!

Monday, December 10, 2012

Is Nappy Hair a Deal Breaker for Guys?

Today a group of friends and I were discussing experiences while dating men; now that I am natural. I figured I would share it with you guys.

It would be nice if I could say that it is uncommon for a guy to dismiss, cease communication or not go on a second date with a girl because she has natural (Nappy) hair. The hair she was born with – that is. But I cannot. It is more common than people think. I am fortunate to now be with a man who is very accepting of who I am and my ‘nappiness’ and encourages my natural journey. However the road there was a very bumpy one.

This is a very REAL issue within the black community. We are still not at the point of accepting our ‘blackness’ and loving black women like they are. We are so far away from that point that it is very hard to picture it. 

So here is the story: One day out of curiosity I asked a guy I went out with if he could tell me why we never went on a second date and I expressed that he can be very candid. He said ‘ok’ and began to explain. ‘I think you are a very bright and attractive girl but I don’t like the Nappy Hair you have and don’t think I will. But you’re a cool girl though’. Yes guys! That is what the guy said to me. I wasn’t mad but you have to stop and think and acknowledge that this is how lots of men think. The question is how are we going to correct this? And worse, can it even be corrected? 

While discussing this, we started reminiscing on the feed backs we were getting from guys. Asking us questions like ‘why is your hair not permed?’; ‘how do you comb your hair seeing that it is not straight?’ or “What is going on with your hair”. All while trying to ask nicely to make sure the date is not completely ruined. Yes people, these are comments that came from guys’ mouths. Disgusting! But true.

My best friend IslandEssence from YouTube wrote on her Facebook:
Girl: why did we only go on one date?
Guy: I cant deal with the nappy hair thing...
My Advice: Maybe u need a white girl...they come with straight hair, naturally

It created a positive buzz all day on her Facebook and twitter. We also realized that lots of men shared our views. "Very comforting".

We decided to go to Google and do some quick research. The results were astounding. It made us realize that this is not an isolated thing. This is something that happens to naturalsistas all the time. It is sad, but we are slowly learning to have thick skin and not be offended. A lot of attractive, educated and grounded women are being turned down and shunned by educated black men because they don’t have long flowing straight hair. Men are that shallow.

Kittikat24 from left this post on the issue:
I was getting to know a guy and after communicating for a while he abruptly broke it off. Perplexed I found out from a friend that he couldn't be with a girl with 'nappy hair'. I guess he decided he'd have to "change me" to continue the relationship. That just hurts though, that out of EVRYTHING...the deal breaker's my hair?

Empressri also from left this post on the issue:
I have been ps'ing in wigs lately but decided to wear my 'fro' a few days ago.

My mentor (an older man), looks at me and says, "What is going on with your hair?" I responded with 'this is the hair that God gave me, which promptly shut him up.

She couldn’t have said it better. And there are tons of comments on this topic in almost all hair forums I looked at. It is a shame to be honest. But it’s a real issue that lots of our black educated women face daily.

Have you had any negative comments directed at you by men because of how you choose to wear your hair?

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Treating Eczema The Natural Way

Tackling Eczema Naturally

Eczema is not a rare skin disorder. Many of us suffer from it. Some experience mild eczema that look like very dry skin that a few applications of Cortizone 10 can fix. Then you have those that experience scaly skin with big flakes, patches, blisters and skin so dry it itches/burns. I am one of those people. Having to deal with eczema can be a hassle. I am always trying to hide the rashes with more covering clothing and makeup to hide the patches on my face (which eventually makes it worse). The most annoying thing, is when you have to explain to colleagues and coworkers that its not contagious (even though some patches are round like Ring Worm). Doctors prescribe topical steroids but they don't always work or work for a while then you get another prescription. Name it I have been prescribed it. All this by the way is not free. Lol!

I decided to go on Natural Eczema Treatment experiment. I mean, what can I lose? Haven't I tried everything else? So here goes. Lol!

I am by no means an expert or a medical professional but I have researched a lot of oils, butters, plant extracts that claim to have benefits for the skin and hair. I have narrowed it down to Coconut oil, Shea Butter and Aloe Vera Juice/Gel that I chose to use on this journey.

Coconut Oil


Coconut acts as an effective moisturizer on all types of skins including severely dry skin. It naturally moisturizes skin and hair and penetrates the skin and hair shaft better than most oils. Lots of naturalsistas use coconut oil religiously in their hair but its just as effective on the skin.

Shea Butter


Shea butter seals in moisture without clogging pores. It moisturizes the skin and is often used to even skin tone

Aloe Vera Juice/Gel


Aloe Vera is very moisturizing (whether you use the commercially sold juice or gel or if you extract it from the Aloe leaf yourself). It leaves your skin hydrated and soothes the rashes and blisters.

Independently  they are good skin care  ingredients. However my skin situation need ALL THREE.  I mix them together into a creamy paste. I make small amounts at a time.

Below is my potion:
4 tablespoon of Shea butter
2 teaspoon of Coconut oil
2 teaspoon of Aloe Vera gel

Mix until it is creamy and the Shea Butter is no longer hard. I rub it into my skin on the affected areas 3 times per day. Morning, Midday (yes I have it in my purse. Lol!)

The key to treating or minimizing the appearance of eczema or any other dry skin disorder is to keep your skin moisturized. That is my challenge. Wish me luck?